Dating as a millennial has been very interesting I must say, because it's different and it's something that I'm still adjusting to. I am currently single but I am dating which took me a while to do only because I just didn't have the patience to deal with anyone other than myself.
But as time has passed I have realized that I can't be alone forever (even though 15% of me wants to be) I'm only 22 and I have my whole life (God willing) to find my soulmate so until then I'll continue to weigh out my options.
What I've notived about this generation is that everyone is very selfish. Which is not always a bad thing because we're more aware of our own needs but on the other side of things being able to understand and unlock what others need are is something a lot of us struggle with.
Also, the idea of dating to marry doesn't seem to be big with millennials. I know for mysel, it changes; sometimes I want to get married and have a big family and other times I feel as if maybe marriage just isnt important to me but why is that? Well, It would be too much to explain in this blog post but the easy answer is that I'm really focused on me, myself & I.
Being this single 22 year old , people asume that I'm going out on dates all the time but let me tell you this now, that is defiently not the case with me. In all honestly dating is exhausting, people are strange and I'm mean " allegedly " . (hahah if we're being honest)
The worst date I have ever I mean ever been on was with this guy who I have known for a good amount of time ( so if your reading this hello .. ) but anyways this was our first time going out together and I really didn't have any expections on what the day would bring but I just wanted to have a good time.
Now let me break down everything that went wrong.
1. HE WAS LATE ATLEAST 20 MINTUES
2. WE WERE AT THE MOVIES SO ITS A CERTAIN TIME WE SHOULD BE IN THE THEATER & I PERSONIALLY THINK THE MOVIES ISN'T A GREAT FIRST DATE CHOICE PERSONALLY.
3. WHEN HE FINALLY GOT THERE HE WAS ON THE PHONE. RUDE
4. TRIED TO RUSH ME INTO THE MOVIE BECAUSE HE WAS LATE
5. NEVER ASKED IF I WANTED ANYTHING FROM THE SNACK BAR
6. FELL ASLEEP IN THE MOVIE
7. DID'NT TEXT OR CALL IF I MADE IT HOME SAFELY. DISMISSED
Needless to say there was never a second date and that is totally okay because situations like this help mode you into something so much better and also help learn more of selfworth ( blog post coming soon )
I recieved alot of feedback when It came to this blog post and I wanted to see what my followers/reader thought of when It came to dating. One Question I asked was " Should the person who Initiated the date be the one who pay ? " 53% voted of course and 47% said not necessarily which I think I can agree on myself but a DM that stood out said " I want to spend my time with you does not equate to, I want to spend my money on yo " which is very true and I believe that most of us think that spending money = to spending time and that is definitely not the case, find someone who wants to be around you for you.