We are offically in not only a new year, but a new decade. I feel a shift happening and I am extremely nervous but excited to see what this year unfolds for me.
We're entering another year on my self awarness journey. July marks 4 years but following up to it; I wanted to touch bases and share what I have learned about myself this past year.
I started to spend more time with myself and I then, got to the point where being around other people made me more anxious and feeling like I didnt need anyones help. I had to then reevaluate myself and remember the reason to my 5 year journey. Being single for as long as I have, has started to push me into a place where sometimes I can be too independed. When I'm out on dates I don't know how to allow the person I'm out with, to do simple things as opening a door for me. But does that really mean I'm too Independent? or am I not use to kind gestures in that sense.
I know for a fact that when it comes to my business and every day living; I have it. I dont need your help! But how will I be able to turn that off when my 5 year Journey is over and I'm in a relationship. I asked a hand full of men if a women being " too independent " pushes them away from them? 90% said no, it makes them more attracted to that women & 10% said yes, we're a partnership. Lets help each other.
Hearing both sides I took an understanding but at the end of the day; the way I go about living my life will always be for me and maybe when I finally settledown then my partner and I can have that conversations. We now live in a generation where more women don't need a significant other to feel whole and I believe as with time this will continue to be the new norm but does this have to anything to do with being too independent?